Sticking

Sticking is important to me.

Sticking to something when it gets hard.

Sticking to your convictions.

Sticking to your ideal & morals.

Sticking to your friends.

Sticking to friends.....  this one has been on my mind a lot lately.  There are people in my life that have come and gone and it is ok. Then there are people that have come and NOT gone and it might be better if they left.  Then there are the people that have come and gone and I wish they would stick.  My three best girl friends are flung about the country right now and although they have all kept in touch with me it intrigues me how they each keep in touch in a separate way.

One texts me daily, we talk occasionally, we e-mail every now and then.

One calls infrequently, chats on facebook occasionally and never texts.

The 3rd & final one calls & texts at least 5 times a week.  She e-mails when I e-mail her.

All three HAVE kept in touch though. And I love it. When things change you always wonder if your friendships will stick... so many times they do not. You both have to be willing to put in the effort.  You have to be able to push past the one word responses, unanswered texts, calls being left hanging, messages not returned, and "i forgot" or "I am just so busy" and MAKE the person listen & take the time if you want the friendship to continue.  Is it fair to say that both parties are responsible for a failed friendship or is it the fault of the one who "quit" first?  Should the 2nd have tried harder to keep the quitter from quitting?

These are the things plaguing my mind tonight as I carved pumpkins.....

At what point do you stop trying & accept that maybe things are just too different between you now?  Do you have to "break up" in order to get closure for the friendship?  Because let me tell you I feel like I need closure for a friendship!  hmmm

So this one is to all the lost friendships, lagging friendships, & troubled friendships out there.... word of advice- just push the other person.  They will either thank you for it or they will pull further away and at least it will be over quicker for you!  Which sucks.. but dragging it out is worse.  Let me tell you.